You will be the death of me. I just found an email from a reader--girls, ALWAYS use the subject heading or I will think you are spam---who went on a first date with a man who told her he was a "bad guy."
Now I am prostrate, worrying that this reader has decided to give him the time of day because I didn't email back in time. It's like being the mother of a six hundred invisible girls who are all wandering around the world, getting into trouble.
Always use the subject heading when you email me, and always remember that if a man says he is a "bad guy", he very probably is a bad guy. Good guys don't tell you they are bad guys. Quiet or bold, they just don't. Of course, not all bad guys will be so dumb as to tell you, but I believe it cuts down on the bad guys' guilt later if they can think, "Well, I told her I was a bad guy."
When a guy tells you he is a bad guy, he's asking for permission to act like a bad guy. If you ever see him again, he may take that as the permission he was hoping for.
There are good boys, darn it. There are at least two in my parish. Let everyone arrive in Edinburgh en masse to have a look at them.