Just saw this.
I shall now go all trad on you all, and say that the solution to the problem is to stop thinking of anything but religious life and the celibate priesthood as a vocation.
My friend Aelianus once went on at great length about how being single and then being married (and presumably single again when your spouse dies, I would add, and then maybe getting married again) is just ordinary human life. A vocation, he says, is a call OUT of ordinary human life.
If you're single, or if you're married, don't get all twittery about your "vocation." You've got a state in life. If you're single, you have a harder row to hoe, I think, although parents of young or violent children might argue with that. My own life is way happier now that I'm married, but nobody is drooling formula down my shirt and I don't have a son in jail.
If we just go back to the idea that the only vocation-vocations are religious life and the priesthood we can all calm down and get on with life. Singles won't feel like they are being shamed when people argue there is "no such thing as a vocation to the Single life" and marrieds won't think our state in life is just as noble and as worthy and as much a sign of the Kingdom of Heaven as that of vowed religious. It isn't. Come on. I am still scratching my heads at the fury of married old ladies in theology school at the idea nuns and priests might secretly think they have chosen the better part. They did. What's the deal?
Monastics--especially virgins--are in first place; they have dedicated their entire lives to God. They get first prize. The rest of us get super-happy-fun-romantic-time, or faint copies of it, instead. There is actually no mention of super-happy-fun-romantic-time in the Gospel, so it is a good thing for marriage that Our Lord went to the wedding at Cana, otherwise St. Augustine would have lost the early Christian marriage-is-worldly-and-obsolete-we-should-all-never-have-sex-and-thus-bring-about-the-end-of-humanity-and-usher-in-the-Kingdom wars.
Well, squabble in the combox if you like. Frankly I think we're called to all kinds of things. I feel called to write for Single Catholic women, even though I gave up my Single Catholic women blog.