tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-670426779858438488.post2717537195810618708..comments2023-06-16T16:08:23.446+01:00Comments on Edinburgh Housewife: When Your Married Relations SquabbleMrs McLeanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18095035617334068201noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-670426779858438488.post-50337481425189241472015-08-07T08:11:32.722+01:002015-08-07T08:11:32.722+01:00Awful. I'm so sorry that happened to you. And ...Awful. I'm so sorry that happened to you. And how sad that the joy of seeing his daughter married... Wait a minute. What is it like for divorced fathers to see their daughters--especially if they look like their ex-wives--get married? What a mixture of emotions they must feel! Meanwhile, I suspect (and fear) not wanting to see your mother was not as petty as all that. If I saw my own ex coming down the street, I would run a mile.<br /><br />In my experience, divorce is simply not the end of it, and even an annulment cannot take away the scars. Mrs McLeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18095035617334068201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-670426779858438488.post-28363716670375741182015-08-05T20:50:29.031+01:002015-08-05T20:50:29.031+01:00Amen to all of that. My most vivid memory of my te...Amen to all of that. My most vivid memory of my teenage years is of hurtling down side streets in the winter after being picked up from my mother's house, my dad full of anger over something either that she had done or that I or my sister had said that had appeared to be favouring her over him in some matter. He was driving so recklessly that I was quite convinced that he was going to hit a patch of ice and kill us or some poor hapless pedestrian. The newly-divorced are absolutely not in their right mind.<br /><br />-Anonymous out of respect to parent who is no longer completely out of his mind, although he did refuse to attend my sister's wedding last year so he wouldn't have to see my mom which I thought was tragically petty given it's been over 15 years since the split.Survivor of parental divorcenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-670426779858438488.post-46214639841244402932015-08-02T21:48:55.825+01:002015-08-02T21:48:55.825+01:00I see. Well, you can tell him/her they need to see...I see. Well, you can tell him/her they need to see a doctor, or you can ask him/her to see a priest. I suppose if there is an acknowledged Head of the Family, you can beg him/her to consult him/her (after you have spoken to the Head of the Family yourself) . <br /><br />Ultimately, you can't make your parent do what he or she should do--unless he or she is so far gone, some authority makes you their legal guardian. However, you can always protect your own psyche from demands the parent tried to make on YOU.Mrs McLeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18095035617334068201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-670426779858438488.post-3156141397528553142015-08-02T17:49:25.203+01:002015-08-02T17:49:25.203+01:00Auntie, what if your parent, quite obviously needs...Auntie, what if your parent, quite obviously needs a referral to Catholic Family Services, but refuses to seek help for their mental condition because of a cultural aversion (an immigrant family) to therapy or to talking about these things outside the family? Cojuancohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10279471579178661984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-670426779858438488.post-62359400412773450522015-08-02T04:23:05.797+01:002015-08-02T04:23:05.797+01:00Thanks Auntie Seraphic. I needed to read this. I...Thanks Auntie Seraphic. I needed to read this. I was doubting if I had done the right thing by recently referring a family member to a therapist . Thanks for the clearing the doubt! <br />--- CharlotteAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com