tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-670426779858438488.post8975741999193960260..comments2023-06-16T16:08:23.446+01:00Comments on Edinburgh Housewife: Complementarity/ Babies and ArtMrs McLeanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18095035617334068201noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-670426779858438488.post-67599536101297247902015-05-21T23:50:51.898+01:002015-05-21T23:50:51.898+01:00Hmm. My first thought is that the ballet teacher&#...Hmm. My first thought is that the ballet teacher's philosophy should be passed on to homeschooling mothers. "You have to HELP him," the mothers could stress. "You can't expect him to just take on the entire financial burden for a family...." Of course, it could also be passed on to homeschooling fathers. "You have to HELP her. You can't expect her take on the entire emotional burden for a family..." <br /><br />I feel really uncomfortable with the idea of women expecting/wishing/hoping men to come and rescue them from their lives. I am not sure men are so interested in doing that nowadays. What I see around me is more of a life-sharing. "Here's my life, wanna share it?" "Yes, thanks, if you wanna share my life, too." Mrs McLeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18095035617334068201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-670426779858438488.post-23609790878332092962015-05-21T17:50:06.703+01:002015-05-21T17:50:06.703+01:00Re: complementarity in dance. Your observations re...Re: complementarity in dance. Your observations reminded me of this:<br /><br />I took ballet when I was younger, stopping just before I would have started pointe classes. Almost from the beginning the teacher prepared us for dancing with a partner, insisting that we have good form ourselves to make the pas de deux possible. "You have to HELP him!" she would stress. "You can't expect him to just lift you like a sack of potatoes...he will drop you and both of you will land on the floor in a heap!"<br /><br />We all thought that hysterically funny, but now, all these years later, I think about what a great lesson that is for marriage. So often women expect Prince Charming to come along and lift them out of whatever life situation they don't like: financial woes, poor self-confidence, family problems, etc. But the women have to do their part; he can't do it all...if he tries, they usually both end up crashing. (In your example, Seraphic, when B.A. reminded you of "correct form," you went and got something nutritious to eat.)<br /><br />I've also thought that perhaps in life, like in the pas de deux, the man is making it possible for the woman to display her beauty in ways she could not do alone....lifting her to heights she could not reach without him.<br /><br />This probably needs a thousand caveats, but I have found it interesting to ponder.Domestic Divanoreply@blogger.com