tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-670426779858438488.post6788222774637041889..comments2023-06-16T16:08:23.446+01:00Comments on Edinburgh Housewife: Self-Defeating Behaviours 2 Mrs McLeanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18095035617334068201noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-670426779858438488.post-71915086843901049272015-06-26T15:38:41.447+01:002015-06-26T15:38:41.447+01:00Hmm. Since my mid-to-late twenties I have got much...Hmm. Since my mid-to-late twenties I have got much evidence that younger men (age gap up to 9 years) are attracted to me, actually. But when it came to dating them... well. Fun as they are, they soon become intimidated by the pressure to make a serious move. And even though I don't push them intentionally, I always get to thinking: he's nice, BUT I'd have to wait another X years until he is ready to marry and I am not sure if I still want to. In my age, I would rather find someone who would be able to make a decision to get married within MONTHS, not years. And here is the main disadvantage of dating younger men for me. Attraction itself may happen anytime anyplace, but that's not all.Pearlmusicnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-670426779858438488.post-60008646417392427102015-06-26T15:35:34.640+01:002015-06-26T15:35:34.640+01:00Yes Julia! Also, often the time a pregnant woman m...Yes Julia! Also, often the time a pregnant woman most needs to sit down is when she's super nausea and probably doesn't really look pregnant at all. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01862608839870093437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-670426779858438488.post-30748514033427741372015-06-26T12:43:53.857+01:002015-06-26T12:43:53.857+01:00The other thing is that sometimes you can't te...The other thing is that sometimes you can't tell for sure if someone is pregnant. A heavy coat over many layers makes it nigh on impossible to tell.<br />Juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03992516879346846271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-670426779858438488.post-8016552860870832982015-06-26T12:12:48.592+01:002015-06-26T12:12:48.592+01:00Funnily enough, one place where men have offered m...Funnily enough, one place where men have offered me help while carrying heavy bags many times is in famously unfriendly London. (And yes, I smiled and thanked them!) And I have also seen men stopping to help women with baby buggies or bags up the stairs in the Tube many, many times. The nice thing is, women do it too if a woman looks more tired/laden with things than they are. (Not just callously expecting a man to help when they are in fact the nearest able bodied person.) I wonder if this is an effect of living in a crowded city where you are sort of forced to bump up against people (literally!). That said, I was once so absorbed in reading something or other on my phone that I didn't realise a very pregnant woman was standing up RIGHT IN FRONT OF my seat until I heard my station announced. I wish she had tapped me on the shoulder and asked me if I would mind letting her sit down – I still wince when I think of how I just sat there oblivious!Shiraznoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-670426779858438488.post-11653776652531866292015-06-26T09:09:18.742+01:002015-06-26T09:09:18.742+01:00Well, I wouldn't be so exasperated by the midd...Well, I wouldn't be so exasperated by the middle-aged women. Aging is tough on women in western cultures. It may be tough on women in eastern cultures, too, now, but I hope not. Anyway, yes, it is sad to lose something you had before. <br /><br />And yes there are 30+ women who are confused and sad because young men are not attracted to them because there are many women not rooted in reality. That said, clearly not all 30+ women are "invisible" to men. Perhaps I was too humorous at my own expense, and the Frenchman would still lug my suitcase onto the train. It might depend on what I was wearing and what my hair was doing, etc.<br /><br /><br /><br />Mrs McLeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18095035617334068201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-670426779858438488.post-76402394940144998502015-06-26T01:43:40.484+01:002015-06-26T01:43:40.484+01:00Seraphic, you look younger than you are (based on ...Seraphic, you look younger than you are (based on photos) so maybe that's why people think SPS is your husband.<br /><br />Also, are there really women who are 30+ and surprised if 20-something men aren't interested? I certainly do not expect to be found attractive by men in their 20s when I am in my 30s. I'm already not found particularly attractive by men in their 20s, and I'm their peer! Maybe the women who are annoyed that 20-something men aren't interested are the women who had a lot of male attention when they were in their 20s but not so much now that they're in their 30s?<br /><br />I've always been a little exasperated when middle-age women (not talking about you, Seraphic) complain that they're "invisible" to men now and whinge whinge whinge. At least at one point they were visible to men! I can assure you that being a woman in her 20s does not guarantee that one will be visible to men.<br /><br />The upside of this for women like me is that when we're middle-aged we won't get the almighty shock of being rendered Invisible.Juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03992516879346846271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-670426779858438488.post-80827108899358641312015-06-25T16:11:50.949+01:002015-06-25T16:11:50.949+01:00"Former student! Ack! Ack!" is right! Ju..."Former student! Ack! Ack!" is right! Just too awful on so many levels.Domestic Divanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-670426779858438488.post-78401882561441502582015-06-25T15:58:01.124+01:002015-06-25T15:58:01.124+01:00Oh poor you. My condolences. Oh poor you. My condolences. Mrs McLeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18095035617334068201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-670426779858438488.post-83764528394589801212015-06-25T15:52:12.185+01:002015-06-25T15:52:12.185+01:00No unsigned Anonymous comments on this one please....No unsigned Anonymous comments on this one please.Mrs McLeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18095035617334068201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-670426779858438488.post-15425201372211893112015-06-25T15:08:05.197+01:002015-06-25T15:08:05.197+01:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-670426779858438488.post-79707505765879053872015-06-25T15:07:38.492+01:002015-06-25T15:07:38.492+01:00I had a small bag of shopping in one hand and my d...I had a small bag of shopping in one hand and my dog's bed in the other, she had just been put to sleep and I was in a daze. I wanted to be left alone, words were hard. He didn't seem offended, quite cheerful, hope I didn't come across as rude. <br /><br />SinéadAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-670426779858438488.post-86603414970261081532015-06-25T15:02:28.499+01:002015-06-25T15:02:28.499+01:00Or if he were drunk or otherwise objectionable. Or if he were drunk or otherwise objectionable. Mrs McLeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18095035617334068201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-670426779858438488.post-43464467518167588442015-06-25T15:01:46.651+01:002015-06-25T15:01:46.651+01:00Yes, you certainly can, although I don't know ...Yes, you certainly can, although I don't know why you would--unless of course he were a complete stranger and you were worried that he might run away with your stuff. Mrs McLeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18095035617334068201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-670426779858438488.post-50458860446326226662015-06-25T14:39:30.411+01:002015-06-25T14:39:30.411+01:00Is it ok to decline help offered but be nice about...Is it ok to decline help offered but be nice about it and say "thank you very very much, you're so kind" or is that still considered rude?<br /><br />SinéadAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-670426779858438488.post-80276606339828901152015-06-25T14:38:15.755+01:002015-06-25T14:38:15.755+01:00Never mind the 20 year difference: former student!...Never mind the 20 year difference: former student! Ack! Ack!<br /><br />I always enjoy when Seminarian Pretend Son is mistaken for my husband, but I think he was born 40. Mrs McLeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18095035617334068201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-670426779858438488.post-29529481761871105092015-06-25T13:29:38.048+01:002015-06-25T13:29:38.048+01:00Funny story on age difference: A couple of years a...Funny story on age difference: A couple of years ago I was in the waiting room at the dentist, and a strikingly handsome man walked in. As he was talking to the receptionist, I was covertly admiring his good looks and wondering his age. I thought he might be younger than me, but not by too much, until his mother walked in...and I realized he was a former student of mine! I hadn't seen him in a few years as he was away at college, but nevertheless I'd been eyeing him like a potential contemporary, when in fact he's nearly 20 years younger...ack! ack! ack!<br /><br />I guess to be fair I should say that when he was a high school freshman, most people (teachers and students alike) initially mistook him for a new faculty member. But still.Domestic Divanoreply@blogger.com