tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-670426779858438488.post2884621801158584625..comments2023-06-16T16:08:23.446+01:00Comments on Edinburgh Housewife: Wedding Survival TipsMrs McLeanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18095035617334068201noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-670426779858438488.post-5725240055605532512015-07-30T13:06:56.963+01:002015-07-30T13:06:56.963+01:00Yes, Brigid. Stop worrying. It sounds like you hav...Yes, Brigid. Stop worrying. It sounds like you have thought about your Single guests enough, and now your job is to "Enjoy your day" as a college librarian once repeated at me over and over again so forcefully, I started to wonder if she hated me. Whatever the spirit behind her words, her words were quite correct! :-DMrs McLeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18095035617334068201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-670426779858438488.post-75961335888301790722015-07-27T22:08:54.695+01:002015-07-27T22:08:54.695+01:00Oh, Seraphic, that last one made me smile. I'm...Oh, Seraphic, that last one made me smile. I'm seating my single friends with a mixture of interesting and familiar people. There will be unlimited tea and limited alcohol, the band's playing Irish and folk tunes, and the church has a dedicated "reading room" full of ragged hagiographies for people to escape to, should they need to. So maybe I can stop worrying about them all now.Brigidhttp://orthogals.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-670426779858438488.post-48710478809558063102015-07-21T03:49:29.583+01:002015-07-21T03:49:29.583+01:00My worst is the groom who wanted "I Still Hav...My worst is the groom who wanted "I Still Haven't Found What I'm Looking For" as music at the ceremony. Fortunately the groomsmen ganged up on him and convinced him it was inappropriate.Mari Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07171764404064781371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-670426779858438488.post-32064763090967861302015-07-21T03:42:35.922+01:002015-07-21T03:42:35.922+01:00Ach! So inappropriate for a wedding!Ach! So inappropriate for a wedding!Mari Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07171764404064781371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-670426779858438488.post-76338876868072809772015-07-20T23:47:25.939+01:002015-07-20T23:47:25.939+01:00It really depends on the wedding. It's common ...It really depends on the wedding. It's common but not standard. People with a serious significant other got a plus one for ours, but that's it- there wasn't space! Anamariahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15389152787880010149noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-670426779858438488.post-8066206783147905142015-07-20T23:38:12.437+01:002015-07-20T23:38:12.437+01:00Is that common in America? In Australia no one rea...Is that common in America? In Australia no one really brings plus-ones. People's spouses, de factos, fiances and long-term boyfriends are usually invited, but as a single woman, there's no way I'd be offered a plus-one.Juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03992516879346846271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-670426779858438488.post-8852117302065360792015-07-20T23:35:46.989+01:002015-07-20T23:35:46.989+01:00I perform at weddings and funerals. I see it as my...I perform at weddings and funerals. I see it as my small service to the collective sanity of mankind that I choose music that actually, you know, doesn't suck and is appropriate and stuff.<br /><br />The whole music-at-weddings thing really tests my charity. I sit there thinking "How come people with such shocking taste get to get married and I don't? I have a Masters degree in MUSIC." Like this one wedding (Catholic) I went to where the bride walked down the aisle to some piee of K-Pop rubbish.Juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03992516879346846271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-670426779858438488.post-33339266207350795482015-07-20T23:17:52.939+01:002015-07-20T23:17:52.939+01:00Kill. Me. Now.
I love the bit about saving people...Kill. Me. Now.<br /><br />I love the bit about saving people from their bad taste!<br /><br />Juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03992516879346846271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-670426779858438488.post-42525692425261140732015-07-20T19:30:01.834+01:002015-07-20T19:30:01.834+01:00Stellamaris, I have no idea how it got through. We...Stellamaris, I have no idea how it got through. We have a pretty rigorous approval process for music/liturgy at our parish; obviously not at this parish. Aside from the Cohen disaster, the Sanctus was the St. Louis Jesuits version (ugh) and was the OLD (ie, before 2010!!!!) translation. Maggienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-670426779858438488.post-31997795741982609402015-07-20T19:16:36.425+01:002015-07-20T19:16:36.425+01:00I don't know if you're Canadian. If you ar...I don't know if you're Canadian. If you are, you will probably have heard that Justin Trudeau, son of the late Prime Minister and possibly our next Prime Minister himself, had Cohen's Hallelujah sung at his wedding. It is wildly inappropriate for that purpose, not only because it is (probably) about an adulterous love affair, it is about the failure of that kind of love, as lines like "Love is not a victory march/It's a cold and it's a broken hallelujah", and "Maybe there's a God above but all I ever learned from love/Is how to shoot somebody who outdrew ya", which is a brilliant line in itself wrt what happens to people who go through the "love" mill too often, but scarcely suitable for a wedding. <br /><br />Sigh. What do they teach them at these schools? <br /><br />Alias ClioAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-670426779858438488.post-81683696080683925092015-07-20T18:20:00.296+01:002015-07-20T18:20:00.296+01:00That's a good idea. I had forgotten all about ...That's a good idea. I had forgotten all about plus ones. I can't believe people can actually afford to invite plus ones to their weddings, but it's a big world out there.<br />Mrs McLeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18095035617334068201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-670426779858438488.post-77485383569198203192015-07-20T17:40:29.726+01:002015-07-20T17:40:29.726+01:00Maggie, was the priest not aware of the choices th...Maggie, was the priest not aware of the choices the couple had made? I am the minister of music at my church, and beside the fact that I would never let such a selection through, the priest has to approve everything before I can do it. Stellamarisnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-670426779858438488.post-7800808975161161452015-07-20T17:37:19.284+01:002015-07-20T17:37:19.284+01:00A tip I would add is BRING A DATE EVEN IF YOU ARE ...A tip I would add is BRING A DATE EVEN IF YOU ARE NOT SEEING ANYONE so that you will have a dance partner. It is too depressing to sit through all the great music because no other male guest can become unglued from his plus one long enough to ask other women to dance, even once.<br />The next time I am asked to a wedding (admittedly, I am not invited to them very often - not many of my close friends and relatives seem to get married), I will ask a male from my swing community to accompany me in exchange for a good time and a free meal.Stellamarisnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-670426779858438488.post-42505994591567792092015-07-20T16:31:26.437+01:002015-07-20T16:31:26.437+01:00Oh man, I love weddings [and serve as the wedding ...Oh man, I love weddings [and serve as the wedding coordinator for good friends oftentimes] but the Music Lover's Angst is the worst. The worst wedding I ever helped with was secular-Catholic (ie, nominal Catholic, with no actual Catholicity behind it, versus most other Catholic weddings I coordinate, where the bride and groom usually go to daily Mass and pray the rosary together...) and during the sign of peace, the song playing was Leonard Cohen's Hallelujah, which, aside from being a secular song inappropriate for Mass, is about ADULTERY if you listen to the lyrics. The poor priest gave me a look of despair, knowing I was the only one in the wedding party suffering the same angst about this horrific abuse of the liturgy, and then solemnly began "Agnus Dei..."Maggienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-670426779858438488.post-64450643836467545132015-07-20T14:20:04.657+01:002015-07-20T14:20:04.657+01:00Oh goodness Julia! Music Lover's Wedding Angst...Oh goodness Julia! Music Lover's Wedding Angst is SUCH a thing! During my Protestant childhood, my dad, a professional musician, was always the church organist and choir director, which meant he did all the weddings and funerals. At least he managed to save some people from their awful taste by having some standards of his own for the ceremony itself. He categorically refused to play "Here Comes the Bride" (which every schoolchild has sung as something like: here comes the bride/big fat and wide/tripped on a banana peel/and went for a ride)" and told me how on more than one occasion he had to turn down a bride's request to have "I Don't Know How to Love Him" from Jesus Christ Superstar sung during the service. I'm not even kidding.Heather in Torontonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-670426779858438488.post-82623433559779973362015-07-20T13:32:11.324+01:002015-07-20T13:32:11.324+01:00Yup. I am all for the beauty battle plan. Good for...Yup. I am all for the beauty battle plan. Good for you! Mrs McLeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18095035617334068201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-670426779858438488.post-3999010768210370702015-07-20T12:01:35.787+01:002015-07-20T12:01:35.787+01:00Don't worry -- wedding season in the northern ...Don't worry -- wedding season in the northern hemisphere might be winding down, but here in the southern hemisphere, it starts to get real around September and winds up during March or so. <br /><br />I am on the cusp of a wedding. Two of my dear friends are getting married to each other. <br /><br />The next wedding after that will be in April, and I am the Maid of Honour/Chief Bridesmaid.<br /><br />I generally don't suffer from Singles' Wedding Angst. I suffer from Music Lovers' Wedding Angst, which you have alluded to in your post. Symptoms include the temptation to roll one's eyes when one hears pretty much any cliché wedding music.<br /><br />I definitely concur with the one about dressing to the nines. DO NOT SKIP THIS STEP. In order to combat Singles' Wedding Angst, I have been known to put a special beauty battle plan in place weeks before the wedding. I also don't stop myself from buying new shoes or whatever. This is preventative medicine.Juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03992516879346846271noreply@blogger.com